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Everyone wants to know How To Have Better Sex.  Mostly, men want to know to have better relationships with women and quite often to have more relationships with different women.  If you’re determined to learn how to have better sex just follow these 4 key concepts.

If you really imagine it where you are now a man not really connecting with the women you really want to…  It’s hard relating to women and it’s frustrating because you feel like other men know secrets you don’t. An important factor when you start is realizing that you need help. The reason why this is important is because if you don’t know there is a problem than you run the risk of being the only one that doesn’t know. I guarantee you that all the women in your life know that you don’t know.

Now imagine you start to learn impressive skills and abilities.  Another important consideration for how to have better sex is taking action. It’s critical that you learn what actually works because you’ll still be in the same boat otherwise. If you make sure that you do it the right way, then you’ll be fine.

Now imagine the confidence level you’re experiencing as you approach your wife, girlfriend or friend with benefits because you’ve learned how to have better sex.  You don’t have to have a huge package or have the endurance of a New York City marathon runner to know how to have better sex. All you need to do is become involved, and make sure you don’t do it half way.

Instead of complicating how to have better sex efforts by watching porn and believing that’s how it happens in movies, try it this way: real life advise and then actual achievement.

So if you really want to know how to have better sex, follow these tips to impress the women in your life. When you know how to have better sex – the women in your life will thank you.

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Why do some couples get bored with sex after a few months while others continue to enjoy making love throughout their adult lives? The conventional wisdom is that the way to stave off sexual boredom is variety — that “great sex” consists of different positions, different techniques, different routines, different times of day, different venues, different toys and devices, different perfumes, different condom colors — and different lovers. Much of contemporary sex material caters to this view, constantly feeding people new ideas on how to add to the sexual menu. Why else would all those women’s magazines tout a sex article on the cover of every single issue?

Variety-oriented sex advice focuses almost exclusively on foreplay. That’s understandable, since there are endless permutations to the positions and possibilities of this part of lovemaking. The whole body is an erogenous zone, and if a couple has the time, the imagination, and the stamina, foreplay can be new and interesting practically forever. Most sex advice spends little if any time on the way in which couples have their orgasms — because, as we saw in earlier chapters, there are relatively few effective approaches to this part of lovemaking.

But is variety during foreplay really the key to avoiding sexual boredom? Two people can make love in an outrageous number of ways and still grow weary of each other sexually. This can happen if they’ve fallen out of love, been betrayed, or suffer from other problems, but it can also happen to couples who are in love and really want to make the relationship work. Could it be that another variable is more important to the staying power of a sexual relationship?

This is an empirical question; we could find the answer by doing really thorough, honest, confidential interviews with couples for whom lovemaking has and hasn’t stood the test of time. Unfortunately, sex literature is not particularly helpful in this important area — probably because researchers haven’t been asking the right questions.

While we wait for better research, though, we can speculate about what truly keeps passion alive. Here’s a theory; it’s unproven, but it poses an intriguing alternative to the idea that variety is everything.

In the early stages of a romantic relationship lovers are full of passion and excitement and often experiment with lots of different positions and approaches and explore their likes and dislikes. As they get to know each other better they tend to settle into a routine — certain preliminaries and a specific way of reaching (or not reaching) orgasms — with occasional variations. This is a crucial point in a sexual relationship. Are both partners having satisfying orgasms (not necessarily simultaneous) when they make love? If a couple’s routine leaves one partner sexually unsatisfied (and it’s almost always the woman), there is trouble ahead. These lovers may confide in their friends that sex has become “boring,” but boredom is not the real issue. The nub of the matter is a lack of deep satisfaction for the woman, which robs lovemaking of mutuality and depth — and may affect her partner’s level of satisfaction as well; men may be more sensitive to the subtle dynamics of sex than we suppose.

Without the deep satisfaction of mutual orgasms, there’s a tendency to focus on sexual behaviors that by themselves can seem repetitive and even tiresome. It is boring to go through the same routine week after week if it doesn’t culminate in good mutual orgasms. The hypothesis here is that if we interviewed couples who have become “bored” with sex and asked the right questions, we would find that they do not have a good technique for mutual orgasms. We would predict that such couples would become increasingly dissatisfied with their sex life and either accept that (and have a sexless marriage), use other means to gain satisfaction (perhaps masturbation), or look for new partners to try to recreate the “sheer excitement” phase that they remember so fondly.

Conversely, if we interviewed couples who have been genuinely happy with their sex life for several years, our prediction would be that at some point they discovered a good sexual finale and continued to use it (perhaps with variations) over time.

But doesn’t using the same mutual-orgasm approach get monotonous? Strangely enough, it doesn’t. People don’t get tired of having orgasms together any more than they get tired of eating good food. The analogy with food works on a number of levels.

Our appetite for food and for sex are basic drives that build up over time. When we’ve had a fine meal or a good orgasm, we feel mellow and satisfied and our drives are temporarily slaked.

Both types of hunger are influenced by quality: when food or lovemaking is mediocre, our appetite goes down; when the meal or the sex is good, our appetite increases.

If we’re extremely hungry or haven’t had sex in a long time, we are less fussy about the finer points of cuisine and lovemaking.

With both food and sex, we can have too much of a good thing: with food we feel sick to our stomachs; with sex, we get exhausted and sore. In both cases, our appetite disappears, and we have no desire to eat or make love for a period of time. But the basic drives are still there, and before long, they’re back.

But the food/sex analogy breaks down in one area. Although we can get great enjoyment in the course of eating and making love, what truly quenches our sexual appetite and leaves a sense of deep gratification and closeness is not all the foreplay; it’s the orgasms. The kissing, hugging, different positions, techniques, toys, etc., can be great fun, sharpen the palate and heighten sexual arousal, and even boost the eventual level of gratification — but unlike the courses of a good meal (which are the meal), foreplay activities are a means to an end; it’s the orgasmic finale that really hits the spot. The quality of this final stage of lovemaking is what delivers the lasting physical and emotional payoff. Getting that part right is the key — a point that sex books and videos rarely emphasize.

Another reason that using the same mutual-orgasm technique can be satisfying year after year is that the feelings lovers experience from orgasms can change from session to session. One of the remarkable things about sex is the potential for great variety within the same technique. Lovemaking in which a couple uses a single mutual-orgasm approach can be hot and lustful, sweet and gentle, loud and raunchy, whispery and quiet, and everything in between. Subtle differences in mood, time of month, level of arousal, positions, pressure, and timing can produce quite different feelings and climaxes. So within the context of one successful approach to mutual orgasms, there can be great variety over the years.

How do lovers know if they have found a good mutual-orgasm technique? There are several ways to tell:

First, does it deliver a satisfying climax to both partners during a lovemaking session?

Second, is it acceptable and comfortable for both partners?

Third, does it still work on a Friday night when both partners are pretty weary? (Let’s face it: most couples with children have limited options for private lovemaking time, most of which are times when they’re not fresh and well-rested.)

Finally, does it continue to work for both partners over the years?

These questions may be the best indicators available to loving couples as their relationship moves through the years. If they are honest with each other, they will know the answer to the first and second questions quite early on. They’ll get the answer to the third question as life gets busier and they’re more exhausted on weekends, and the answer to the fourth will become apparent after a few years. If they’re always “too tired” for sex on Friday night and sex is becoming “boring,” it’s a sure sign that the couple needs to go back to questions one and two and find a different route to mutual orgasms that really works for both of them.

from the book The Great Sex Secret by Kim Marshall Published by Sourcebooks Casablanca; November 2006;$12.95US/$16.95CAN; 978-1-4022-0810-2 Copyright © 2006 Kim Marshall

Jeffery Anderson
http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/the-issue-of-boredom-96204.html

Premature ejaculation could very well be one of the most common problems plaguing the sexually active men of today’s world. It is the condition when the person ejaculates too soon, i.e. before the female partner reaches her climax. The male climax is obtained when there is the discharge of the seminal fluid from the penis during the sexual act. In men with premature ejaculation, this happens all too soon.

Naturally, one of the major problems with premature ejaculation is that is allows neither partner to enjoy the sexual act in a proper manner. The male is dissatisfied because he cannot hold out the pleasurable sensations of sexual contact for a longer period; and the female partner is satisfied because she doesn’t arrive at her sexual peak.

Though premature ejaculation is a condition when the male comes too soon, there is no limit as to how soon. That is to say, there is no fixed time limit before which it can be said that the man is suffering from premature ejaculation. An early definition of the case suggested that men who ejaculate within two minutes of the penetration are suffering from premature ejaculation; but this definition is now considered redundant because a staggering 50% of all men of the world – young and old – are known to ejaculate within this time frame, and in most of the cases the women are entirely satisfied.

The causes of premature ejaculation are too many to list completely. In young men who are trying out sex for the first time, there could be so much excitement that the discharge may occur too early. Sometimes, young men may be performing the sexual act secretly, and this would need them to ejaculate soon. This could become a habit in later life. The world over, premature ejaculation is found more in young men than in older men. Older men learn the tricks of the trade better and by exercising self-control, they are able to delay their ejaculations.

Men suffering from diseases such as diabetes also suffer from premature ejaculations, i.e. if they get an erection at all. Diabetes can make a man impotent. Mental stress and tensions also play a role in forcing the man to ejaculate before both the partners are fully aroused. Similarly, smokers are known to ejaculate prematurely while having sex. The usage of certain drugs – therapeutic as well as narcotic – can cause premature ejaculation in a person.

Since premature ejaculation is so widely rampant among males of today’s generation, there are also many suggestions available to rectify the situation. One of the important techniques used widely is the ‘squeeze’ technique. The male – or the female partner – arouses the penis by fondling it. When the discharge is just about to occur, the glans (i.e. head of the penis) is squeezed with the thumb and the forefinger. This avoids the semen from getting ejaculated, and the penis becomes limp as the blood gets disgorged out of it. After a minute or so, the penis is aroused again, and again squeezed when the man is about to ejaculate. Doing this a couple of times during each sexual act can increase the arousal value. Also when the male finally ejaculates, it will be a copious amount of semen.

All sexual experts emphasize the need of being totally stress-free when performing sex. When having sex, the person must concentrate just on the act and not on any worldly matters. By using mind-control, an experienced man can delay his ejaculation.

One more method is to masturbate just a few minutes before the sexual act. Masturbation relieves some of the sexual frustration. Also since an ejaculation has already occurred, the man will take a longer time to ejaculate when having sex with his female partner.

During the sexual act, more importance should be paid to foreplay. Foreplay means the arousal of the non-genital organs of the body, such as the nipples, earlobes, nape of the neck, thighs and basic contact with the skin itself. Prolong the penetration for as much time as possible and focus on other arousal centers of the body. Talking with the partner during sex is also a means to delay the actual ejaculation.

Alcohol was considered – and is still considered by some – to be a solution for premature ejaculation. The prime argument in its favor was that alcohol numbs the nerves, and so it can delay the ejaculation for some time. Now this is not true. Whether alcohol helps people with premature ejaculation or not, one fact stands and that is that alcohol is harmful for the basic health of the person. Hence one should be cautious what treatment he takes when sexual problems like premature ejaculation are concerned.

The most important thing about premature ejaculation is to remember that it is not a disease, but a dysfunction. So, no amount of medication can be used to ‘treat’ this condition. This is necessary advice for protection from quacks who swindle good sums of money from gullible young men. Just keep in mind that almost every man in the world feels that he has come too early in the sexual act, and that the act can be better if prolonged.

Dr John Anne
http://www.articlesbase.com/men’s-issues-articles/men-secret-issues-v-90576.html

What is an amethyst gem stone? Amethyst is a violet or purpose wide variety of quartz. The name arrives in the Greek and essentially signifies, “not drunk”.

It had been believed that the stone protected it is proprietor in the intoxicating results of alcohol and Dionysius, who was the god of intoxication, was angered when he was insulted by a mortal and in the moment of pique vowed to enact revenge on the following mortal that crossed his path. He produced tigers to bring out his desire and when a beautiful girl called Amethyst came among the path on her method to pay tribute towards the Goddess Diana, Diana quickly transformed the tigers into statutes of pure crystal quartz. Filled with remorse for his actions Dionysius wept tears which stained the quarts purple creating the amethyst jewelry we know today.

Amethysts could be found in numerous locations such as various places of the US this kind of as Delaware county, Pennsylvania, North Carolina, Texas and Yellowstone national Park for example.

Amethyst is also found in Argentina, Bolivia, Brazil, Uruguay, as nicely as in Zambia, Namibia along with other African countries.

Amethyst from South America tend to be available in bigger sizes than the African amethyst but, on another hand, amethyst from Africa possess the popularity for getting a much better, more saturated colour in smaller sizes. Very dark amethysts, mostly in small sizings, are also mined in Australia.

As purple has usually been regarded a royal colour it arrives as no surprise that the amethyst gem stone has been so much in demand by royalty all through history. You can see amethysts featured within the British Crown Jewels. They had been also a favorite of Catherine the Excellent and Egyptian royalty. Amethyst, transparent purple quartz, is probably the most essential quartz variety used in diamond jewelry. The higher demands on this type of diamond jewelry have caused jewelry makers to produce it in numerous kind of diamond jewelry such as in fashion jewelry rings, men’s necklace and men’s earrings.

Leonardo Da Vinci once wrote how the amethyst was able to dissipate evil thoughts and quicken the intelligence.

Because amethyst was thought to encourage celibacy and symbolize piety, amethyst was very essential in the ornamentation of Catholic along with other churches within the Middle Ages. It had been, in specific, considered to become the stone of bishops and they even now frequently put on amethyst rings.

And in Tibet, amethyst is regarded to be sacred to Buddha with rosaries frequently fashioned from it.

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